try this // the reverse bucket list

I’ve always been cautious when it comes to bucket lists.  They are frequently recommended during big transitions: graduating, moving to a new home, getting a new job, etc.  I generally stay away from creating or following bucket lists because they don’t help me end relationships/transition well. Instead of slowing down to reflect on all I’ve accomplished, bucket lists highlight the items I have yet to achieve and they end up stressing me out!

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welcoming change

welcoming change

The secret of change is to focus on all of your energy, not on fighting the old but on building the new. – Socrates

Welcome to my new blog! Same concept, new look. What do you think?? Although I am excited to get back into the blogging scene, it took me a bit to get to this place…

Last December my blog was accidentally deleted. My emotions were all over the place when I found out: sad because I lost what I had been working on since 2013, angry at how it happened, and overwhelmed because I could not imagine starting over. Thankfully I was able to recover some of my content and started rebuilding a new hub for all my ramblings.

At first I was hesitant to start over but I quickly realized I missed having a personal project that allowed me to be creative while reflecting on anything and everything. So, I decided to push through the emotions and see this as an opportunity to rediscover my “blogging identity.”  It is still a work in progress but I’m happy to be back.

xo vm

trust you’ll adjust


One of my simple goals for the year was to start a blog and share weekly posts.  For those of you that follow me regularly, you probably noticed I haven’t posted over the past two weeks. Here is a glimpse at what has been keeping me away from my blog:


OH. MY.  The past two weeks have been truly incredible and I often find myself overwhelmed by the wonderful people in my life.  Yes, YOU, wonderful people!!

Regardless of the happiness I have shared with family, friends, colleagues, and Adam over the past few weeks, these transitions are still overwhelming at times.  All of these events – graduating, starting a new job, planning a wedding, moving back to Atlanta – have had me on a roller coaster of emotions.  Don’t get me wrong, I am beyond thankful for all of the new changes going on in my life, but leaving UGA is bittersweet.

These transitions have me thinking about how I can best handle all of this change. Below are a few tips that have been helpful for me over the past few weeks and I hope they are helpful to you as well!

Trust You’ll Adjust
Tamar Chansky wrote an interesting article about how, even if it’s a good change, you can feel “off” or “bad” during a transition because you haven’t located yourself in your new context yet.  She assures readers that it is normal to not feel fantastic right after a transition.  It is important you don’t expect to have a seamless process during transition because it takes time to adjust to the changes.  Ultimately, trust that you will adjust over time.

Leverage Your Strengths
In the Gallup Business Journal, Brian Brim discusses how the better you understand your talents, the more effectively you can take control of the situations with which you are confronted.  Brian recommends individuals going through a transition use their strengths to handle the changes.  I would argue my positivity and ability to strategize have been the strengths I have utilized the most over the past few weeks.

Try Various Coping Responses
Schlossberg’s Theory of Transition describes four major factors that influence your ability to cope with a transition: situation, self, support, and strategies (Evans, Forney, and Guido-DiBrito, 1998).  Strategies are the coping responses you can have to a transition.  You can use strategies that modify the situation, control the meaning of the situation, or manage the stress of the situation.  Although some strategies are come to us more naturally, during times of many transitions it can be helpful to utilize more than one strategy to handle the changes.

xo vm