monthly moment // july 2015

It’s time for July’s Monthly Moment!  This is a community where you are encouraged to share a single photo – few words – capturing a moment from the month.  A simple, special moment that you want to pause and savor.
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July was a great month for me.  It is my birthday month, after all! For the 4th I traveled to Portland, OR to meet up with some college friends and my one request was to find a good hike in the area.  We decided to venture out to Multnomah Falls and were totally surprised by the difficulty of the hike.  The hike itself is only 2.6 miles round-trip but the combination of the heat and elevation gain was pretty brutal.  Regardless, the views were worth the trek.  How lucky am I to have friends that will “brave the wild” with me??

What was your Monthly Moment?  Share below – the linkup will stay open until August 15th!

  1. Post your Monthly Moment on your own blog.  Posts from FB, Instagram, Twitter, etc. are welcome, too!
  2. Link back to this site so others can see your photo, too! You can use the button and the linkup (below) to connect with other bloggers. (Please note entries completely unrelated to the theme or linked to your homepage will be deleted.)
  3. Link up your posts on any day of the month.
  4. The most important rule!! Visit the person’s blog who linked up directly before you and leave them an encouraging/motivating comment.  This is such an important part of the linkup!  The purpose is to encourage each other and build a community.

click link below

xo vm

looking for balance? seek fulfillment!

seeking fulfillment | Milagros Moments

I recently submitted a post for the Student Affairs Collective reflecting on my struggles to achieve balance.  In trying to achieve balance I have actually been trying to achieve the unachievable by setting unrealistic expectations for myself.  OUCH.

Then I discovered Carponi’s (1997) recommendation to focus on living a fulfilling life instead of a balanced life.  What does that mean?? Try focusing on fully developing your character & abilities as opposed to trying to balance all the things.

If this sentiment inspired you as much it inspired me, click here to read more about living a fulfilling life!

xo, vm

// Caproni, P. (1997) Work/life balance: You can’t get there from here. Journal of Applied Behavioral Science, 33(1), 46-56.

// shoutout to my good friend Alex Lange (twitter//blog) for introducing me to this article.

monthly moment // may 2015

Welcome back to Monthly Moment, a community where you are encouraged to share a single photo – few words – capturing a moment from the month.  A simple, special moment that you want to pause and savor.

milagros moments // may 2015

For the month of May I picked an image from a memorial service honoring the the 147 students at the Garissa University College in Kenya and the 30 Ethiopian Christians whose lives were lost during attacks by the al-Shabaab and ISIS extremist groups, respectively.  This was a beautiful moment of unity and reflection.

  1. Post your Monthly Moment on your own blog.  Posts from FB, Instagram, Twitter, etc. are welcome, too!
  2. Link back to this site so others can see your photo, too! You can use the button and the linkup (below) to connect with other bloggers. (Please note entries completely unrelated to the theme or linked to your homepage will be deleted.)
  3. Link up your posts on any day of the month.
  4. The most important rule!! Visit the person’s blog who linked up directly before you and leave them an encouraging/motivating comment.  This is such an important part of the linkup!  The purpose is to encourage each other and build a community.

click link below

 

xo vm

Monthly Moment | Milagros Moments

try this // sharing wellness resources

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Mood boards are intended to visually illustrate a specific design style.  Since I’m not a designer, I prefer to use mood boards as a visual tool to quickly share information and inspiration about a general idea and/or concept.  In an effort to provide a platform to share resources about wellness and it’s various dimensions, I’ve started cultivating a Wellness Community Board on Pinterest.

Some of my favorite pins so far:

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And one of my new favorite quotes:

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Everyone is welcome to join this community board – just comment below or email me (vmroman18@gmail.com) to be invited to the group!  For my fellow bloggers out there, this board can also serve as an opportunity for you to shamelessly promote your own wellness posts or blogs by your favorite wellness idols.

If you aren’t sure what to pin, don’t be shy! Below are some topics/dimensions to guide you:

Physical
Health and Nutritional
Convention
Financial
Mental
Environmental
Social (media and otherwise)
Intellectual/Creative
Sexual
Emotional (intelligence and otherwise)
Career
Spiritual

Still not convinced? What if you knew infusing positivity in your surroundings can boost your happiness?  That’s right – the more positivity we experience/read/view on a daily basis, the happier we are : )

Happy pinning!

xo vm

THE CIRCLE LINK-UP

the circle of influence & what it means for college students

I have a distinct sophomore-year memory of calling my dad in tears, complaining I was not able to do everything I wanted to do.  I wanted to be involved in everything so I could make as big of an impact on my community as possible and, as a result, I became incredibly overwhelmed.  In response to my call for advice, my dad introduced me to the Circle of Influence.

What is the Circle of Influence?

Imagine a circle.  Picture you and each of your concerns (big and small) in the middle of that circle. When you think about all of those concerns at once, they easily become overwhelming. Now, picture an additional circle – the Circle of Influence – that encompasses the concerns you DO have control over/can do something about.

The key is to focus on your circle – the concerns you are able to control – so you can function at full capacity.  While the circle might expand or shrink depending on the context (resources, source of support, energy, etc.) it is important to check-in with yourself to be sure you not pushing the limits of your circle to the point of exhaustion.

Circle of Influence

What does this means for our students?

Sophomore-year Veronica was definitely performing outside of her circle.  It took someone else’s perspective to help me understand why I was feeling so overwhelmed.  As student affairs professionals, we have the opportunity to support our students when they are reaching too far beyond their circles. Additionally, we can proactively provide them with the resources needed to guide them away from going beyond the point of influence.

What does this look like in practice?

Continue teaching students the importance of prioritizing.  When students are able to name their values and identify what is of significance to them, they are better able to focus on a specific range of experiences to achieve a depth of growth as opposed to being overwhelmed by the breadth of opportunities.

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Don’t get me wrong – the purpose of college for many students is to explore opportunities so they are better able to identify what is valuable to them and that’s great!  But sometimes getting involved in too many opportunities is counter-productive.

Remember: just because a circle of influence decreases in size doesn’t mean it decreases in value.Tweet: Just because a circle of influence decreases in size doesn't mean it decreases in value. http://ctt.ec/Fc895+ @vmroman18

Thanks, Dad : )

xo vm

// concepts adapted from The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by S. Covey

// read about recognizing everyday leadership